Did Nick Viall go too far when confronting Andi Dorfman about their breakup on The Bachelorette? Nick seemed so in love with Andi, and their relationship was so full of chemistry and passion. Andi always talked about their strong mental connection. So we were shocked when she showed up at Nick’s door to tell him that they were over. It really seemed to come out of left field.
Nick was just as shocked as the rest of us, and he wanted answers. But he may have become a bit to obsessed. He didn’t stop trying to get in touch with Andi, even after the cameras stopped rolling and tried to contact Andi multiple times: once while she was on vacation and again at the “Men Tell All” episode. She refused to see him, but did accept a letter, which ended up on The Bachelorette’s Facebook page.
He wrote about how she made him feel and how he really thought they could have made it in the real world and questioned why she really broke up with him. Was she just scared of the intensity of the relationship? “I realize I have to move on and I mean it when I say that if you’re truly happy with your decision and I haven’t been a thought on your mind, then I want that happiness to continue for you. If I have to move on, I will look to find amazing with someone else [and] know that some day I will. I just know I would much rather turn my life upside down and risk it all to have amazing with you,” he wrote.
Things didn’t end there though. Andi eventually did have to face Nick during the “After the Final Rose” episode and things got heated and awkward. He confronted her and questioned her about their relationship. “The hard part is … feeling like you did,” he said, “if you weren’t in love with me, I’m just not sure why, like, why you made love with me.” Andi said that bringing that up was “below the belt” and that some things should be kept private.
We agree that some conversations don’t need to be on live national television. Bringing that up was unnecessary, but he did have a right to ask her about what happened with their relationship and to get his feelings out there. That said, is it really fair for him to be this upset? People have been criticizing Nick for being obsessive, controlling, and unrealistic. This does seem like an extreme response, but Nick was so sure of their relationship.
Andi has clearly moved on. She’s engaged to Josh Murray. And Sean Lowe, the only Bachelor who married the woman he chose has some advice. “Falling in love while globetrotting the world was the easy part. Learning how to love someone you’ve spent a collective 20 hours with is the really hard part,” he said. “I’d tell them not to elevate the other to the level of ‘soul mate.’ It sets everyone up for unrealistic expectations and emphasizes the romance over the hard work of building a relationship.”
Watch Nick spill the secret that Andi slept with him in the Fantasy Suite:
Andi and Nick’s confrontation was incredibly awkward, and it doesn’t look like Nick has come any closer to getting closure and getting over Andi. But this was far from the only messy breakup on the Bachelor and Bachelorette. Here are five of the most awkward breakups in Bachelor and Bachelorette history:
1. Clare Crawley and Juan Pablo Galavis
Clare Crawley gave Juan Pablo Galavis a piece of her mind when he eliminated her on his season of The Bachelor. “This entire time I’ve stuck around because I believed in you. And the other night, on our last date, when you came over and we spent our last hour together, I needed that reassurance. And I gave you the opportunity,” she said.
“I wanted to do it because I believed in us," she continued. "I saved this moment for the man of my dreams. And I thought that was you. And I thought I knew what kind of man you were. Sharleen didn’t have those feelings for you, it wasn’t there. Andi did the same thing. You had every opportunity like those girls did to tell me how you feel.”
Then she let him know how she really felt about him and the audience started cheering. “It doesn’t matter to me. I lost respect for you … I thought I knew what kind of man you were. But what you just made me go through, I would never want my children having a father like you,” she said.”
2. Jason Mesnick and Melissa Rycroft
Jason Mesnick and Melissa Rycroft’s breakup was one of the most awkward breakups ever. Jason dumped Melissa on TV during the “After the Final Rose” episode because he was in love with runner-up Molly Malaney. “I still have feelings for Molly,” he said. Melissa, understandably, did not take it well. “I’m so mad at you,” she said. We can’t say we blame her for that. Jason and Molly actually ended up together and got married though.
3. Ben Flajnik and Courtney Robertson
cheated with three different women in one weekend. Plus Ben admitted that they basically broke up for a while on “After the Final Rose.” Seeing Courtney on the show “led to Courtney and I not talking for a period of time…We were essentially broken up,” he said. And Courtney felt very mistreated after the show. He was initially supportive when the show started airing “and then he abandoned me,” she said.Ben Flajnik and Courtney Robertson broke up 11 months after getting engaged after Ben reportedly
4. Jake Pavelka and Vienna Girardi
Jake Pavelka and Vienna Girardi’s breakup got downright mean. They both took to the tabloids to call each other out and even filmed a special on their breakup, which did not go well. We got to see first hand just how bad things had become between the two of them. “She breaks me down, She’s mean, She’s always right. I never do anything right,” Jake said, while she called him the “biggest fake liar I have ever met.” Their confrontation got ugly.
5. Brad Womack and Emily Maynard
Brad Womack and Emily Maynard both had multiple Bachelor and Bachelorette breakups. Brad was on The Bachelor twice. The first time he broke up with both Danna Pappas and Jenni Croft. “I watched the finale and I felt like a jerk,” he said. “I know that the only person I have to blame is myself. It’s taken a lot of therapy and a lot of time, but I’ve…learned to open up my heart. I want to prove to everybody I changed.”
That seemed true when he got engaged to Emily, but they broke up, too. And Brad wasn't exactly upset about it. “I think I dodged a bullet with that relationship,” he said. Emily then went on to The Bachelorette, but also broke up with fiancé Jef Holm.